{"id":76,"date":"2022-02-03T10:31:29","date_gmt":"2022-02-03T15:31:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/?p=76"},"modified":"2022-02-03T15:16:15","modified_gmt":"2022-02-03T20:16:15","slug":"self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"Self-Care: Build a Relationship with Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1>Self-Care: Build a Relationship with Yourself<\/h1>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/\" title=\"Self-Care\">Self-Care<\/a> sounds easy but it&#8217;s a challenge.\u00a0 How would you rate yourself on a scale of 1 &#8211; 10?\u00a0 If you had to put a number on how you feel about yourself, and how well you know yourself, what would it be?\u00a0 \u00a0If you feel you know yourself very well, but are on the lower side of how much you like yourself, then it might be time to start thinking about self-knowledge, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/\" title=\"self-care\">self-care<\/a> and how you can build a better relationship with yourself, and the next pages will be exploring how to accomplish this.<\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a3ca39e32fd2\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 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ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/#examples-of-self-care\" >Examples of Self-Care<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/#examples-of-physical-self-care\" >Examples of Physical Self-Care<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/#examples-of-mental-self-care\" >Examples of Mental Self-Care<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/#examples-of-spiritualsocial-self-care\" >Examples of Spiritual\/Social Self-Care<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/#learn-to-forgive-folks\" >Learn to Forgive Folks<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/#take-time-to-help-someone-else\" >Take Time to Help Someone Else<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/#write-a-letter-to-yourself\" >Write a Letter to Yourself<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/#practice-constructive-self-talk\" >Practice Constructive Self-Talk<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"stop-focusing-on-others\"><\/span><strong>Stop Focusing on Others<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-83 alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/love-yourself-2-300x176.jpg\" alt=\"Love-Yourself\" width=\"300\" height=\"176\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/love-yourself-2-300x176.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/love-yourself-2.jpg 610w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>There are many distractions out in the world, but some of the worst are those that comes from spending too much time focusing on and critiquing the lives of others. It can be extremely easy to fall into the bad habit of spending your time concerning yourself with the actions of others, and you may even spend time discussing these things with others, but it&#8217;s important to note that while you\u2019re focusing on others, you\u2019re avoiding work that you can be doing on yourself, practicing self-care.<\/p>\n<p>Another side of this, is that it might be a manifestation of insecurities that you feel towards yourself due to constant comparing. The person who is aware of the nuances of how you feel would be you, because people can\u2019t read the minds of others. If you feel as though you are constantly scrutinized by others, it\u2019s important to remember that they might not even be aware that you feel any discomfort at all. Most of the time, people are primarily focused on how they are seen by others.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"examples-of-self-care\"><\/span>Examples of Self-Care<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"examples-of-physical-self-care\"><\/span>Examples of Physical Self-Care<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Eating healthy<\/li>\n<li>Exercising<\/li>\n<li>Going for a walk<\/li>\n<li>Drinking water<\/li>\n<li>Sleeping enough<\/li>\n<li>Going for naps<\/li>\n<li>Having a cup of tea<\/li>\n<li>Sitting in the sunlight<\/li>\n<li>Taking a shower or bath<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div style=\"margin: 30px;\"><\/div>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"examples-of-mental-self-care\"><\/span>Examples of Mental Self-Care<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Practicing mindfulness<\/li>\n<li>Taking a break<\/li>\n<li>Playing video games<\/li>\n<li>Listening to music<\/li>\n<li>Reading a book<\/li>\n<li>Listening to a podcast<\/li>\n<li>Reflecting on things you are grateful for<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div style=\"margin: 30px;\"><\/div>\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\"  style=\"display: block; margin: 0px auto;\"  id=\"_ytid_77436\"  width=\"400\" height=\"250\"  data-origwidth=\"400\" data-origheight=\"250\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ZToicYcHIOU?enablejsapi=1&autoplay=0&cc_load_policy=0&cc_lang_pref=&iv_load_policy=1&loop=0&rel=1&fs=1&playsinline=0&autohide=2&theme=dark&color=red&controls=1&disablekb=0&\" class=\"__youtube_prefs__  no-lazyload\" title=\"YouTube player\"  allow=\"fullscreen; accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen data-no-lazy=\"1\" data-skipgform_ajax_framebjll=\"\"><\/iframe>\n<div style=\"margin: 30px;\"><\/div>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"examples-of-spiritualsocial-self-care\"><\/span>Examples of Spiritual\/Social Self-Care<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Praying<\/li>\n<li>Calling\/texting a friend<\/li>\n<li>Connecting with nature<\/li>\n<li>Meditating<\/li>\n<li>Engaging in self-reflection<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div style=\"margin: 30px;\"><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"learn-to-forgive-folks\"><\/span><strong>Learn to Forgive Folks<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>It\u2019s really hard to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/the-5-love-languages-and-what-they-can-mean-for-your-relationships\/\">love yourself<\/a>, to make a better relationship with yourself when you carry a lot of baggage from past dealings with people. Things sometimes happen that can make your feel a little bit sour about having relationships with others but it\u2019s important to remember that you don\u2019t need to hold into these things. Let them just be things that happened and move on. It\u2019s been said that forgiving people is more about <a href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/\" title=\"self-care\">self-care<\/a>, being healthier for yourself than the person you\u2019re forgiving. This is because holding onto to anger and pain will only cause you to feel negatively about a lot of other things in your life.<\/p>\n<p>Once you have forgiven someone completely, the part of your mind that has been holding onto those toxic thoughts and feeling will be free to focus on better things. You can use that brain power to think of ways to put good things into the world around you. There are a lot of ways to spread positivity, and the best ways involve doing something for others.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"take-time-to-help-someone-else\"><\/span><strong>Take Time to Help Someone Else<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-86 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/Self-Care-Is-Not-Selfish-300x188.jpg\" alt=\"Self-Care-Is-Not-Selfish\" width=\"300\" height=\"188\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/Self-Care-Is-Not-Selfish-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/Self-Care-Is-Not-Selfish-768x480.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/Self-Care-Is-Not-Selfish.jpg 800w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>There are few joys that can compare to the feeling you get when you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/sendquickieloveemails.php\" title=\"help someone\">help someone<\/a> who really needs help. When you\u2019ve been spending a lot of time focusing on yourself in unhealthy ways, a really good way to break out of that is also to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/sendquickieloveemails.php\" title=\"help someone\">help someone<\/a> else. This puts them in the forefront of your mind for a time, and this can help you to appreciate the situation that you have as well.<\/p>\n<p>There are a lot of programs that involve helping the homeless and elderly, and both are in constant need of volunteers that can help dilute the strain placed on other people who are already busy in the community. You might be surprised by the outpouring of gratitude that comes from people who haven\u2019t been used to getting the help that you\u2019re helping to provide. This can create connections and inspire the future success of people who might not have had the opportunity otherwise.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"write-a-letter-to-yourself\"><\/span><strong>Write a Letter to Yourself<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Part of achieving <a href=\"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/blog\/self-care-build-a-relationship-with-yourself\/\" title=\"self-care\">self-care<\/a> and getting to the deeper parts of yourself is taking time out of your day to put your thoughts on paper so that you can read them back to yourself. Sometimes it takes this kind of exercise in order to be able to get a sense of what is truly on your mind. You might have doubts about recent decisions, or you might need to see your thoughts out in front of you to make those final choices. Whatever the case may be, this will help you to begin to prioritize your feelings and thoughts about things. Once you\u2019ve drawn some conclusions it\u2019ll be easier to make real changes based on the information you have about yourself.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"practice-constructive-self-talk\"><\/span><strong>Practice Constructive Self-Talk <\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>After you\u2019ve taken some time to think about the things you wrote down to yourself, make some effort to replace anything negative that you said to yourself with something that is positive. Talk about your talents and abilities. Tell yourself that you can accomplish your goals. The more that you repeat these things to yourself, the more possible they will become.\u00a0 Sky&#8217;s the limit&#8230;go for it!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Self-Care: Build a Relationship with Yourself Self-Care sounds easy but it&#8217;s a challenge.\u00a0 How would you rate yourself on a scale of 1 &#8211; 10?\u00a0 If you had to put a number on how you feel about yourself, and how well you know yourself, what would it be?\u00a0 \u00a0If you [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":81,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-76","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-care"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/76","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=76"}],"version-history":[{"count":32,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/76\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":114,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/76\/revisions\/114"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/81"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=76"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=76"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthacity.com\/love\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=76"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}